1. Rejecting food when there’s an issue: Mr husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared, you refused to eat because you are angry, it’s one of the greatest signs of immaturity, it’s time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere when angry, but ensure you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to blow up everything.
2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head: May I let you know that even when your wife disobey/ disrespect you,she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.
3. Issuing Threats: Beating, verbally abusing your wife, Issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist, when she’s acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.”
Signs of Immaturity
4. Reporting your wife to friends and family: When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. By the way,are you a reporter? Answer my question.
5. Keeping malice Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them nag, criticize, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a “big boy” who’s in control, but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.
It’s wrong to date any man just because you are single and all your friends are in a relationship. When it comes to choosing a man, it’s important you have standards as a woman.
Men have standards so I expect women to have standards too. Don’t be with any man because you are single; you won’t enjoy the relationship if you do that.
I see many women getting it wrong when it comes to choosing a man. I see women go for men who aren’t good for them and don’t deserve them.
Choose a real man and not just any man.
Below are five (5) qualities every woman should seek in a man
1. CHOOSE A MAN WITH INTEGRITY
When choosing a man, go for a man with integrity. A man with integrity will not play games with you. A man with integrity says what he means and does what he says. A man with integrity is a real man and every woman should go for such men.
2. CHOOSE A MAN WHO SUPPORTS YOU
When choosing a man, you should go for a man who encourages and supports you. For a relationship to succeed, partners are expected to support each other. So be with a man who supports you and you are also expected to do same.
3. CHOOSE A MAN THAT CARES
Never go for a man who has no compassion for others. A man who treats others poorly will also treat you poorly. Go for a man who cares for others because such a man will care for you too.
4. CHOOSE A MAN THAT CAN BE TRUSTED
Every relationship is built on trust and it’s important you choose a man who is trustworthy. Without trust, passion and intimacy in a relationship is destroyed.
5. CHOOSE A MAN WHO PROTECTS YOU
When choosing a man, it’s important you choose a man who will protect you. Choose a man that won’t say hurtful things about you to others but would instead praise you in public. A man that will be there to defend you when people speak bad about you.
Louisa: Rex, I’m a virgin, I’m so worried about how I can satisfy my future husband, since I am so naive about sex.
Rex: Hahaha! You are such a dumb fellow. Don’t you know that you are suppose to test your sexual strength before marriage? What if you get married to a virgin like you, how will your sexual life look like? Come on girlfriend, you need to have sex now to test your ability so that you won’t frustrate your husband later on. Ok?
Louisa: Thanks for your advice, I will think about it.
There are so many misconceptions about sex. These misconceptions has shaped some people’s understanding about sex in the wrong way, it has led many into a regrettable life style.
Just like the story line, many virgins have been lured into sexual sin.
LET’S LOOK INTO SOME OF THESE MISCONCEPTIONS.
1. GETTING MARRIED AS A VIRGIN MAKES SEX BORING: This is a wrong misconceptions about sex.
Just like the opening story in the first paragraph, many have been made to believe that being a virgin before marriage makes sex frustrating.
If I may ask: Who taught Adam and Eve how to have sex?
As humans, when we were born our brain was like a plain slate but as we grow we begin to learn, unlearn and relearn. Sex is part of our genetic make up. So, as a virgin when you get married, sex won’t be boring because as you continue in it you will become a master of it. “The sexual pro of today, was naive about it yesterday”.
2. SEX TO PROVE FERTILITY:
This is another misconception that a lady ought to get pregnant before marriage to prove her fertility. Many men will tell their ladies to get pregnant for them before marriage. While indirectly enjoying free sex.
This is very wrong. Many have gotten pregnant before the marriage and got miscarriages after the wedding and were unable to give birth afterwards.
On the other hand, so many ladies have been lured into sex without the men getting married to them as promised.
Man is not God and God is not man. God has already made a provision for fruitfulness in marriage hence He said we should go into the world and multiply so why put him to a test?
Love and Romance
3. THE SIZE OF HIS MANHOOD MATTERS?
Size of manhood is another misconception. Many Ladies are so curious about the size of the manhood. They want to have sex so that they will know if it’s what they want or not. As such they have engage in sex with multiple partners because if Mr A doesn’t have the size they want they have to test Mr B. This is wrong. Satan is luring you into fornication. Get married before sex and you will enjoy it.
If you already believe in the above misconceptions it is important you change your mindset today.
God already concluded that sex is for the married so no place for argument. No matter how genuine those misconceptions might be to human understanding, it is wrong in God’s eyes. Obey the word of God, He has the final say in your life.
Why should You obey the voice of man when God has concluded that premarital sex is wrong??
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
AFFIRMATION: I will keep my body for God and by His grace. I won’t be lured into sexual misconceptions, so help me God.
Please before you think of Marriage Mr Man, I hope you can pray for 2 hours + ?
Please sister, before you think of marriage I hope you can pray for 1 hour + ?
Marriage is hard work, never get into it if you can’t pray for long without distraction, Please Don’t Marry.
Why I Say This Is……✍️ – Prayer Is Intimacy With God.
Remember ADAM had time with God before his EVE came. He already spent time God’s presence, till the extent God knew what he wanted.
There are some people God will tell them “Go and marry” not because they want to, but because They know God, and God recognizes them and sees the need for marriage.
Sister, if issues arise in your family and you can’t see before time….if you can’t discern spiritually ahead of time….Check Your Prayer Life.
2. YOU MUST HEAR FROM GOD:
….Before You Think Of Getting Married You Must Hear God…
Please, I beg you. If you need to go and pray before hearing God you’re a baby 😂
You may not understand, let me help you…..✍️
Do you know, Intimacy with God is a daily act.
We are to know God very well…it is very sweet for us to be alone and Blast in Tongues, Worship Him and Pray.
When you do this every day. You may see a woman and God tells you right in your ear “This Is Your Wife”
So you don’t always have to see her and go back and pray before you hear God because God constantly communicates with His Children, but if his Children remain babies you’ll have to see something and be running to pray for days while God would have spoken to you but please, That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pray.
Understand this…..✍️
By hearing God. One also must hear God verbally, by dreams, revelations or visions.
If you can’t clearly hear God for 99% of issues in your life. You’re not ready to get married because the time your wife is frustrating you, the Lord may want to tell you that you should love her more. But Mr Man, you can’t hear…🤷♂️
The man is the Priest of the Family. At times you need to leave things to pray for 7 hours.
3. DON’T BE DESPERATE FOR MARRIAGE:
Desperation for marriage is why many people enter wrong marriages. Some people just want to get married. To them marriage is sweet
Those people that Like relationship talks and Marriage talks but don’t like other aspects of the Bible…..You are baby Christians.
Please understand, many of this talks on Relationship mostly affects Emotions. But when a Spiritual activity comes in. People keep quiet, or do not read them
Can I call it Vanity?
If you are rushing for marriage … Please Stop, think and go and build a relationship with God
I told God, may a woman Never make me love you less!
NEVER !!!!
I remember one of the day, I knee and prayed, making a vow to marry whomsoever he will recommend to me as a wife!
…..and He shouldn’t make Me to struggle In searching for a wife but should lead her to me…..with a promise to be a great Spiritual mentor to her and my children.
So this covenant with the Lord had already place me ahead as the watchtower over her daughter and marriage…
So I’m ready to remain unmarried until he says…My son, see that my daughter, Yes…She is my will for you!
Bro…..I love God, I always hear him every day….and if he says, “My Be patient…..It’s not yet time to get married….I won’t bother myself but rather to relax and keep on enjoying my singleness.
So If You are very stubborn to hearing God. YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE.
Let your Relationship be so strong with God. Though He might ask you to do painful things or ask you to marry someone who isn’t your heart desires.
Please see how Job was Hurt by God himself.
– Job 13 15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.
If as a believer you can’t say that……✍️
PLEASE DON’T GET MARRIED!
Psalms 51:8. Make me to hear joy and gladness; that the bones which thou hast broken* may rejoice.
Please above 👆 you’ll see that God sponsored many of David’s brokenness.
God is the Potter, he can break you in order to mold you, As He did to me years back and at the remembrance of the pains and the scar… It always Hurt….But thank God I have overcame!
So if you really want to get married. You need Spiritual check up.
Love Language
4. SOLVING YOUR PROBLEM:
You Must Not See Marriage As A Means To Solve Your Needs!
Please, Dear Lady……✍️
Don’t say you are getting married so you’ll be taken care of financially and Materially. You can work with your husband..
Ladies, even in marriage….Understand he’s not to fulfill all your needs, (that is if he doesn’t have enough because you two are now one).
You can pray for God to provide or help him.
Mr man, don’t get married and just decide to sleep with your wife everyday 😬
Sexual control is needed in marriage for Purity.
A lady’s body can’t handle sex all the time, most especially during her painful monthly circle.
I have taken my time as a man to study, dig and thoroughly make research, ask some funny and silly questions from ladies,….whose range from sexual feelings, emotionally bond, anatomy etc !
And at it stand…..I can vividly gives account of 80% of female anatomy and sexual feelings and mood.
As a man, you may not understand how their Sexual body chemistry and connections.
A good woman won’t deny you Sex in marriage but she won’t enjoy it emotionally and psychologically because sex deal with soul bonding and emotion.
As a man, you can even have sex with your wife even when you are keeping malice with her and still get sexually satisfied but your wife won’t enjoy it or satisfied but rather giving it out probably because she didn’t want you to cheat.
So if you Love her, and most especially Love God. You’ll understand and respect her body language.
In marriage….A lady can get pregnant 🤰, And need 9 months, plus extra months to breastfeed.
If you as a man can’t control yourself sexually, Please how did you control yourself before you got married? 🤷♂️
That’s when you start having impure thoughts, get into masturbations or pornography Or even adultery
And when a man does that…..People blame their wives? 🤦♂️
Please let’s understand that women Sexual body Chemistry is different from men.
Your wife may not deny you Sex….But you may be hurting her emotionally 😢.
I’ve heard men that after their wives give birth they force themselves on her 😔
Please you don’t know how hard it is to bring a Child out of her body. Some they use needle and thread to stitch their vagina!
Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit……✍️
God sometimes may tells his Sons, to abstain from sex for a period of time. If you aren’t prayerful, can’t hear God, not in intimacy, not matured.
Then as woman, you’ll complain that your husband is denying you his body 🤦♂️
5. YOU MUST BE A SOUL WINNER:
In marriage, one becomes faster in soul winning because they have a partner.
Don’t let Marriage limit your service with God….before marriage, ensure you win souls.
6. KNOWING THE NEEDS OF A LADY/MAN:
Sister, Men like food,…learn how to cook if you can’t.
Please also know his favourite dish and don’t joke with it……like me, I love Egbuisi soup with hot Eba 😋….even with less money, Please try your best. At least if it doesn’t taste nice. Serve him with love praises and unexpected Kiss 😘
Brother, women love ATTENTION
Pamper her like a baby, shower her with Romantic affirmations tunes and gives her all the cares…..and in return, she will treats you like a King. ☺
Some women can also be STUBBORN, but when you understand her and pet her and learn to correct her with wisdom, she will definitely be groomed into your desires.
Dear sister, men want RESPECT
At times it’s not very easy, be able to think and analysis’s him, but try to just give him due respect.
My Dear bachelor’s….✍️
What I discovered is that…..ladies don’t always talk about their emotions but rather send signals.
That’s why you need to be her friend before even talking about marriage. In this friendship You two get to know yourselves.
You must understand wise ladies don’t rush into Marriage.
— Please before proposing to a lady. Be her friend first!
— Please I beg you. Don’t always approach a lady suddenly.
She wants a Friend to know him well because Marriage between friends last longer.
….Know by her eyes 👀 and feelings or reaction, when she’s hiding something and make sure she talks.
Don’t be the “It is well” brother without finding a solution.
Personally, I hate hearing that spiritual Grammar known as “IT’S WELL” when things are not well.
So, if she mentions something and you say “It Is Well”….It simply means you are not yet ready for marriage.
Please also get to know that, ladies sometimes like to be disturbed to confess something 😄
So, if she is the type that always end difficult issue with that spiritual grammar “IT’S WELL”…..It simply means, she is trying to tell you that…Nothing is well and you should dig around and see how to encourages or help out!
7. LOVE YOUR PARENTS:
Please before getting married, Love your parents….Also know that your in-laws will be your other parents.
People get lonely while getting old 👵….Please check up on them.
8. KNOW YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IN THE HOUSE:
Please, those brothers that say they won’t cook, or sweeper, or Dry cleaner,….You did not get married to have a maid
Yes, it’s the responsibility of the wife is to do those….But also remember that you married a human being that gets tired 🤷♂️
I know women that right from work, they rush to the kitchen to cook….even without Taking bath 🛀 or changing their clothes.
Some are very tired. Legs and back will pain them. Yet,….She does everything to please her husband
While he’s in the parlor doing something that’s not important and saying “When would this food be done, I’m hungry”
Please if the man was wise, and could go and help her. They’ll finish faster, right? 🤷♂️
A man that can not cook, clean, and wash. Likewise a lady. You two are Unserious and not ready for Marriage
Marriage is for Companionship and friends help themselves.
On Saturday morning a lady can wash the cloths of the whole family but the husband does nothing. Not even to do a single thing!
If you can’t humble yourself under God, till you cry that you Love God. You can’t humble yourself in marriage.
Bro, I’m talking to you….✍️
Marriage is blissful and wonderful if the two have sense of understanding and Honour God.
It is not about wedding dress 👗 to ladies……Brother…..it’s not about wedding night 😘.
It’s about Life together and Service to God..
She may not be a virgin, pray for her and cultivate her. Be like Jesus that accepts anyone.
He accepted you when you sinned which is like not being a virgin intentionally.
So why can’t you accept her🤷♂️
Husbands love your Wife like Christ Loves the Church. The Church have hurt Christ a lot. But he still seeks us.
Dear Wife material…..✍️
Please like a good Church, make reverence to your Husband. Submit to him and love him.
*People study how Christ Loves us, To know how to handle marriage* and that should be your goal before rushing or preparing for marriage.
God Bless You🙏🏻
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There is a trending story that happened in Mpika, Muchinga, Zambia of a woman that saw her husband with another lady and chased them in her car and crashed along the way and died.
The story has it that her husband took a lady to the popular SPAR mall for shopping and someone saw them and notified the man’s wife and she hurriedly drove down to the mall
And saw her husband with the lady and when the husband sighted his wife, he hurriedly entered the car with the lady and the things they bought and drove off.
As they drove off, the wife equally entered her car, a Toyota Highlander SUV and gave them a hot chase, probably to catch-up and double cross them but unfortunately.
She lost control & the vehicle skidded off the road & she ran into a tree, became unconscious and died some minutes later. I watched the videos were the vehicle was stuck to a tree and how onlookers helped to bring her out.
It is a very unfortunate but avoidable death. A similar scenario happened in Kitwe Copperbelt and in Cross River Nigeria but the woman did not die in the accident but broke her spinal cord and has been confined to a wheelchair for some years now. Though the one that happened in Nigeria was confirmed dead.
The Following Lessons Can Be Gleaned: 1) If you are not married, always pray about who you will marry. Pray that you will not marry who will mar your life but pray that you will marry who will make you merry.
2) Before you get married, take your relationship and courtship very seriously. Courtship should be a time of ‘interview’ and not ‘intercourse’. Learn and know all you can about your partner before marriage and make up your mind whether to continue or not.
3) Marriage rarely changes people. Most people don’t change after marriage. Don’t marry anyone and try to change the person afterwards in marriage,
It does not work most of the time. If you are in a relationship or courtship with a serial cheat, he will likely still be a serial cheat in marriage. A leopard cannot change it’s spot, neither an Ethiopian his skin colour.
4) Learn to control your emotions and not your emotions controlling you. If you cannot manage your emotion, you will damage your motion. Learn how to manage anger, jealousy, envy, bitterness, sex, etc.
5) Stop being a busybody in other people’s matter. I blame the person that notified the wife for the whole unfortunate scenario. When people are married, remove your eye from their affairs. If you see a married person do wrong, intercede for the person.
6) Every married person must learn to fulfill his or her responsibility and obligation in marriage. Husband love your wife as Christ love the Church; wife submit to your husband in all things as unto the Lord.
Both parties should communicate and have sex regularly. Don’t allow any gap so that the devil will not have a place, space or chance in the marriage.
7) Make room to doubt negative things and stop looking for fault in your spouse. Probably, if the woman was told that the husband was with another woman and she did not read any negative meaning to it but wait for the husband to return home and question him, she would still be alive.
8) Shower excess love, care, attention and attention on your spouse such that if you hear that your spouse is seen with someone else, there won’t be cause for alarm.
Conclusively, may God heal every marriage that is going through crises and may God give us the wisdom to make our marriage work.
May God give us the strength to enjoy our marriage and the grace to endure our marriage, should the need arise. May the soul of the departed woman rest in peace. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
When you both make it a habit to check in on one another, it can really help strengthen the feeling of love between you.
2. LAUGHING TOGETHER
A couple who can share a sense of humor and laugh together will form all kinds of emotional bonds that can help keep the relationship running strong
3. SHARING IS CARING
Whether it’s just your feelings, or emotional and traumatic things from your past, learning to share with your partner can make your relationship that much stronger.
4. GOOD LISTENING SKILLS
Everyone wants to feel heard when they talk, so having good listening skills is important in any relationship. Everyone should be able to listen openly when their partner speaks
5. GIVING IN TO IMPULSE
Being spontaneous helps make sure that the relationship doesn’t fall into a rut. If you want to get in the car and take a vacation one town over for the weekend, do it! If you want to make random plans,
6. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
Being completely honest will help keep the relationship strong, even if it’s not something that your partner wants to hear.
7. TAKE MENTAL NOTES
Remembering the things that your partner likes and dislikes will mean that you’re paying close attention to your partner.
8. TEASING ONE ANOTHER
Nothing has to be serious all the time! Couples should be able to know when to give in and tease one another – especially if it means cheering one another up.
As a Lady, You should cherish the kind Of Man who brings out the best in you and if the man does all these. He is forever keep.
1. Cherish the man who loves his mum. He has been brought up well
2. Cherish the man who loves to read, and not just for exams. He is wise and deep.
3. Cherish the man who is funny. You will never be bored. 4. Cherish the man who treats strangers and the less privileged with dignity. He has a kind heart.
5. Cherish the man who listens. You will be understood.
6. Cherish the man whose idea of fun is constructive, not endless drinking and clubbing. He is mature.
7. Cherish the man who is a family man ready for responsibility and clear about what he wants with you. Your time will not be wasted.
8. Cherish the man who respects his father no matter how his dad is. He has learned true manhood.
9. Cherish the man who doesn’t insult his ex or your ex even if the break up was messy. He is someone who enters into love for the right reasons.
10. Cherish the man who needs you. He will hold on to you.
11. Cherish the man who lets you love him, who lets you see the nakedness of his weaknesses and strengths. He trusts you.
12. Cherish the man who accepts correction and changes his ways if he offends you. He will make himself better to love you.
13. Cherish the man who prays for you. He knows you are a gift from God.
14. Cherish the man who treats other women with respect. He will show you even more respect.
15. Cherish the man who loves the children you and also is a father figure to those not his. That man will have an honourable legacy.
16. Cherish the man with a vision. He will challenge and build you, he knows where he is going.
17. Cherish the man who has a good set of friends.You can tell the character of a man by the friends he keeps.
18. Cherish the man who values intimacy above sex. He will be faithful to you.
19. Cherish the man who is interested in your dreams. He cares about your future.
20. Cherish the man who respects your decisions and doesn’t rush you. He sees you as a life partner, not someone to dominate.
21. Cherish the man who corrects you when you are wrong and inspires and pushes you to do better. He sees your potential and will not rest until your potential is lived out. That man is a keeper.
22. Cherish the man who has been consistent on his focus. You can depend on him.
23. Cherish the man who works hard, is self motivated and is diligent even when he has little. That man is going places and one day he will make you proud.
24. Cherish the man who is not intimidated by other men when they notice your beauty. He is a secure man. https://fb.me/heartbuddies
We are in a particular dispensation where everyone is looking for true love, in this era everyone is looking for any available person to take, that’s why you need to be careful how you treat your spouse, because if they are showing you love and you’re treating them like thrash, you will soon love them, probably to a person you even know.
When a person loves you, try as much as you can to return the love, if you know you can’t return the love, please tell them peacefully let everyone go their separate ways, that is much better than continuing in the relationship and treating them like they are thrash. While your busy treating them any how you like there could be someone out there treating them like Kings/Queens.
#CouplesGoal
They say you don’t know the value of what you have until you have lost it, if you have a spouse that treats you with so much love and affection, appreciate them and treat them right because if you don’t you’re only pushing them away and there would definitely be someone out there who is willing and ready to treat them much better than you, because of this you stand a chance of losing them.
Always remember that the more you treat your spouse like thrash, the more you push them away and the more you stand the chance of losing them to Someone else, if you fall into that category of people who treats their spouse without respect, stop now while you have the chance.
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